TSGOYNA’S BLOG
Where To Send Hate Mail
Have you ever found yourself the recipient or sender of hate mail? Let me back up, Not exactly hate mail spewing vitriolic bullying slander, but a note that is raw, unguarded, accusatory, blaming, needy, demanding or anything else you know will provoke a...
Soup As A Meditation
When I don't know what else to do I make chicken soup. I called a girlfriend I hadn't spoken to in a couple of months. "I have breast cancer," she said. "This s a bump in the road. I'm having surgery next week. We'll see what happens." I hung up...
What’s In Your Blind Spot?
It was 5:15 am. I awoke to the sound of my husband yelling up the stairs. "My car's blocked and I need to leave now." I raced for the keys, jumped in my daughter's car and without adjusting the seat or mirrors, began the 8 or 9 maneuvers to get...
What Do You Want?
When I ask this BIG QUESTION about relationships most people tell me what they don’t want. “I don’t want someone who lies or cheats. I don’t want someone who doesn’t communicate. I don’t want someone who’s lazy.” When I ask what someone wants in a job, they...
Can You Hear Me Now?
Don’t Listen To Yourself Talk To Yourself. These were the words of Jon Dorenbos, a pro-football player, contestant on America’s Got Talent. A juicy piece of wisdom he dealt out while shuffling cards for his special brand of magic, that was as much inspirational as it...
How One 3-Letter Word Changes Everything.
“I don’t know how.” How often have I said this? Believed this? And made it the reason for not moving forward. I don’t know how to do a website or market my material. I don’t know how to set up a financial portfolio. I don’t know how to make a trip...
Are You Where You’re Supposed to Be?
It doesn’t matter where you are, as long as where you are, you’re eking out all you can. That sounds nice as long as you’re in some cushy place with down pillows, 800 thread count sheets or lounging in the beauty and serenity of the ocean breeze with a...
Diluting the Negative with the Positive
di·lu·tion (dī-lo͞o′shən, dĭ-) n. The process of making weaker or less concentrated. The other day I was buying dog shampoo and noticed the ones I liked best were concentrated. They suggested a dilution ratio of 3: 1. Three parts water to one part...
Are You Able to Say “No!”
My friend Jay-Jo had a 4-question acid test she used to make decisions: Will it make me Smarter? Richer? Healthier? Or Sexier? If it didn’t pass the muster, it was a “NO.” Saying “No” is a skill that can be acquired if it isn’t already deep in...
Are You Willing to Channel Your Inner Olympian?
“I just went out and had some fun.” That’s what Simone Biles said after winning the Gold Medal. Her refrain has been repeated by winning athletes for as long as I can remember watching the Olympics. "Fun." What a concept. Clearly an Olympian’s journey to Gold is not...