Why You Want to “STOP IT.”

  My client called me the day after it happened… “I went to the emergency room, she said.  “I thought I was having a heart attack. I guess I’m really anxious about this speech. Her tone was heavy with shame and self-recrimination....

What’s the Paradox of Giving?

“Is it better to breathe in or out?”   I asked my client who’d been struggling with devastating health issues after a recent break-up with her fiancé.   “Out,” she said, thinking she’d captured some metaphysical wisdom in a metaphor about giving and...

And the Award Goes To….?

With all the Hollywood buzz about the upcoming Oscars, I began to wonder what if our lives had annual awards. Would we notice our epic wins, our memorable and noteworthy dramas and comedies? Would there be a category for most valuable contribution to humanity? What...

How A Resource Anchor Keeps You Afloat

I popped open the lid of the shower gel and breathed in the scent.  Paris, 2004, The George V hotel. It was the scent of money and luxury, definitely pre-2008. It was a shower gel I’d taken as a souvenir from the hotel and now 12 years later, I was instantly...

Where Are Your Thoughts Taking You?

    “I just want  to be happy.” That’s a pretty common reply to the question, “What do you want in life?” So what is happiness? What causes it to be present and what causes it to flee? Is the problem with Happiness that we treat...