That’s Good. That’s Bad

That’s Good. That’s Bad

“That’s good. That’s Bad.” I recalled this tag line from one of my favorite children’s’ books by that title, as I watched nature unfold while on safari in Africa. A lion was in hot pursuit of an antelope. “Oh, that’s Bad.” The antelope, away from the protection...

Why You Want to “STOP IT.”

  My client called me the day after it happened… “I went to the emergency room, she said.  “I thought I was having a heart attack. I guess I’m really anxious about this speech. Her tone was heavy with shame and self-recrimination....

Myers-Briggs or Candy Land ?

“I want winning!” the three-year old seethed as he plucked the dreaded peppermint candy card from the pile.  He was so close to the castle, the finish line, the grand ending where he could declare himself the winner, but instead he boomeranged back to the...

What’s Better Than Understanding?

We all want to be understood. This is a fundamental principle of our being.   To feel that someone truly “gets us, know us, feels what we feel, and can relate to us.”   This resonance and simpatico is the strength of relationships.   But when it comes...

What’s the Paradox of Giving?

“Is it better to breathe in or out?”   I asked my client who’d been struggling with devastating health issues after a recent break-up with her fiancé.   “Out,” she said, thinking she’d captured some metaphysical wisdom in a metaphor about giving and...

How Can Boundaries Bring You Closer?

    How can a boundary that’s essentially a barrier enable you to become closer to someone? It’s not a riddle, but an enigmatic truth principle.   Avoidance and distance are our natural defense mechanisms built in to eliminate the pain of those who trod...